<?xml version='1.0' encoding='UTF-8'?><rss xmlns:atom='http://www.w3.org/2005/Atom' xmlns:openSearch='http://a9.com/-/spec/opensearchrss/1.0/' xmlns:georss='http://www.georss.org/georss' xmlns:gd='http://schemas.google.com/g/2005' xmlns:thr='http://purl.org/syndication/thread/1.0' version='2.0'><channel><atom:id>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8085691507900565650</atom:id><lastBuildDate>Sun, 06 May 2012 23:13:29 +0000</lastBuildDate><category>shame</category><category>self-awareness</category><category>anxiety</category><category>victims of abuse</category><category>attachment</category><category>yoga</category><category>lifestyle changes</category><category>poem</category><category>community classess</category><category>seminars</category><category>books</category><category>asserting self</category><category>vulnerability</category><category>recomendation</category><category>course</category><category>autism</category><category>vidoe</category><category>video</category><category>quote</category><category>transitions</category><category>article</category><category>depression</category><category>attitude</category><category>book</category><title>Counseling, culture and emotions.</title><description>Counseling, culture, and emotions is a blog written by Vera Akulov. This blog is intended to give more information about psychotherapy services offered by Vera Akulov. 

Vera Akulov has a counseling practice in Bellevue and in Renton.</description><link>http://www.counselingandemotions.com/</link><managingEditor>noreply@blogger.com (Vera Akulov, LMHC. Psychotherapist (425) 444-5902)</managingEditor><generator>Blogger</generator><openSearch:totalResults>28</openSearch:totalResults><openSearch:startIndex>1</openSearch:startIndex><openSearch:itemsPerPage>25</openSearch:itemsPerPage><item><guid isPermaLink='false'>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8085691507900565650.post-7097496174346612824</guid><pubDate>Thu, 12 Apr 2012 16:50:00 +0000</pubDate><atom:updated>2012-04-12T09:52:05.688-07:00</atom:updated><category domain='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#'>poem</category><title></title><description>"Listen to the Exhortation of the Dawn! Look to this Day! For it is Life, the very Life of Life. In its brief course lie all the Verities and Realities of your Existence. The Bliss of Growth, the Glory of Action, the Splendor of Beauty;&amp;nbsp; For Yesterday is but a Dream, And To-morrow is only a Vision; But To-Day well lived makes Every Yesterday a Dream of Happiness, And every Tomorrow a Vision of Hope. Look well therefore to this Day! Such is the Salutation of the Dawn!" &amp;nbsp; by KALIDASA&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Thank you for visiting my blog http://www.counselingandemotions.com/  Visit my website to learn more about my counseling services http://www.veraakulov.com/&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8085691507900565650-7097496174346612824?l=www.counselingandemotions.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</description><link>http://www.counselingandemotions.com/2012/04/great-reminder.html</link><author>noreply@blogger.com (Vera Akulov, LMHC. Psychotherapist (425) 444-5902)</author><thr:total>0</thr:total></item><item><guid isPermaLink='false'>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8085691507900565650.post-2286803364258975344</guid><pubDate>Thu, 05 Apr 2012 18:22:00 +0000</pubDate><atom:updated>2012-04-05T11:23:16.563-07:00</atom:updated><category domain='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#'>course</category><title></title><description>A meditation course offered by the Art of Living Foundation. Those interested in learning about meditation or deepening their meditation practice.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;April 26th- 29th in Mercer Island &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;a href="http://secure.artofliving.org/course_details.aspx?course_id=12192%20"&gt;http://secure.artofliving.org/course_details.aspx?course_id=12192 &lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Thank you for visiting my blog http://www.counselingandemotions.com/  Visit my website to learn more about my counseling services http://www.veraakulov.com/&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8085691507900565650-2286803364258975344?l=www.counselingandemotions.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</description><link>http://www.counselingandemotions.com/2012/04/meditation-course-offered-by-art-of.html</link><author>noreply@blogger.com (Vera Akulov, LMHC. Psychotherapist (425) 444-5902)</author><thr:total>0</thr:total></item><item><guid isPermaLink='false'>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8085691507900565650.post-6288840244402546269</guid><pubDate>Thu, 29 Mar 2012 23:41:00 +0000</pubDate><atom:updated>2012-03-29T16:41:45.539-07:00</atom:updated><category domain='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#'>books</category><title>Book Recommendations</title><description>&lt;ul&gt;&lt;li&gt;&lt;b&gt;4 Hour Work Week&lt;/b&gt; by Timothy Farris -- great ideas how to streamline your work and create more satisfying career path&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;&lt;b&gt;How to Stop Worry ang and Start Living&lt;/b&gt; by Dale Carnegie -- book full of great examples how people overcame worry and fears&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;&lt;b&gt;40 Days to Personal Revolution&lt;/b&gt; by Baptiste Baron-- book to help with lifestyle changes, including weight loss through yoga.&amp;nbsp; &lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ul&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Thank you for visiting my blog http://www.counselingandemotions.com/  Visit my website to learn more about my counseling services http://www.veraakulov.com/&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8085691507900565650-6288840244402546269?l=www.counselingandemotions.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</description><link>http://www.counselingandemotions.com/2012/03/book-recommendations.html</link><author>noreply@blogger.com (Vera Akulov, LMHC. Psychotherapist (425) 444-5902)</author><thr:total>0</thr:total></item><item><guid isPermaLink='false'>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8085691507900565650.post-8763014555037218235</guid><pubDate>Wed, 02 Nov 2011 00:01:00 +0000</pubDate><atom:updated>2011-11-01T18:55:04.906-07:00</atom:updated><category domain='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#'>lifestyle changes</category><title>Lifestyle and Mental Health</title><description>An article titled "Lifestyle and Mental Health" by Roger Walsh in American Psychologist 2011 Vol. 66, No. 7, 579-592 caught my eye. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;How does our lifestyle contribute to our mental well being? The article lists these eight lifestyle components that if utilized can improve mental well being. 1) Exercise; 2) Nutrition and diet; 3) Nature; (my personal favorite because NW is so beautiful)  4) Positive relationships; 5) Recreation and Enjoyable activities; 6) Relaxation and stress management; 7) Religion and spirituality; and 8) Contribution and Service;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;How many of those areas do you incorporate in your lifestyle? What area is the strongest and weakest? Do you agree with this hypothesis? &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;The author outlines research how each of these eight factors can improve our mental health.&amp;nbsp; Making an effort to incorporate all those factors may take some time by can be a low cost option in working out our mental well being. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Thank you for visiting my blog http://www.counselingandemotions.com/  Visit my website to learn more about my counseling services http://www.veraakulov.com/&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8085691507900565650-8763014555037218235?l=www.counselingandemotions.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</description><link>http://www.counselingandemotions.com/2011/11/lifestyle-and-mental-health.html</link><author>noreply@blogger.com (Vera Akulov, LMHC. Psychotherapist (425) 444-5902)</author><thr:total>0</thr:total></item><item><guid isPermaLink='false'>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8085691507900565650.post-493324241317114893</guid><pubDate>Wed, 10 Aug 2011 00:00:00 +0000</pubDate><atom:updated>2011-08-09T17:00:21.872-07:00</atom:updated><category domain='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#'>book</category><title></title><description>Reading a book called&amp;nbsp; &lt;a href="http://www.amazon.com/Why-Always-About-You-ebook/dp/B0030MQJMS/ref=dp_kinw_strp_1?ie=UTF8&amp;amp;m=AG56TWVU5XWC2"&gt;&lt;b&gt;Why Is It Always About You?&lt;/b&gt;&lt;br /&gt;by &lt;b class="h3color"&gt;Sandy Hotchkiss&lt;/b&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span class="byLinePipe"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span class="byLinePipe"&gt; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span class="byLinePipe"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;span class="byLinePipe"&gt;The book describes people who are narcissistic and how to deal with them.&amp;nbsp; The author suggests the following seven traits of a narcissism:&lt;/span&gt; Shamelessness, Magical Thinking, Arrogance, Envy, Entitlement, Exploitation and Bad Boundaries.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span class="byLinePipe"&gt; &lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span class="byLinePipe"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span class="byLinePipe"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8085691507900565650-493324241317114893?l=www.counselingandemotions.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</description><link>http://www.counselingandemotions.com/2011/08/reading-book-called-why-is-it-always.html</link><author>noreply@blogger.com (Vera Akulov, LMHC. Psychotherapist (425) 444-5902)</author><thr:total>0</thr:total></item><item><guid isPermaLink='false'>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8085691507900565650.post-5144973284154904380</guid><pubDate>Thu, 04 Aug 2011 21:48:00 +0000</pubDate><atom:updated>2011-08-04T14:49:14.780-07:00</atom:updated><category domain='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#'>asserting self</category><title></title><description>&lt;span style="font-size: large;"&gt;&lt;i&gt;&lt;b&gt;Sometimes the reason we feel badly is because we have people in our lives who treat us badly. &lt;/b&gt;&lt;/i&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;i&gt;Is this you? Would you answer yes to any of these statements? Would you answer yes to most or all of these questions?&lt;/i&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;ul&gt;&lt;li&gt;Currently experiencing separation stress, loss, panic, depression, problems with intimacy&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Problems with self-esteem and intimacy&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;In your work you have not achieved your potential&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Dissatisfied with their job / or employed below skill level&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Current career resulted from family expectations&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Have avoided developing your talents, capabilities, and creativity &lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Afraid of being abandoned/rejected&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Afraid of intimacy because you fear losing your identity, possibly being overpowered or controlled &lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Seek partners who are parental and take care of you,&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Paint a rosy pictures of other people&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Ignore red flags that indicate impeding problems&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Feel unable to manage life in a mature manner&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Feel dependent on others to take care of you and meet your needs &lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;You seem younger than your peers &lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Your life is full of frustrations and anger because you can’t express yourself fully&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;You have difficulty with spontaneity and aliveness of affect &lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;You have difficulty asserting yourself &lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Maintaining your self-esteem is difficult&lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;You have difficulty with commitments and intimacy &lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Its difficult to be creative and spontaneous &lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;Sometimes you act rashly to obtain instant gratification and feel good, and avoid the affects of painful emotions through excessive work, substance abuse, and sex and/or instant relationship &lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ul&gt;To build a healthy relationships with others means building a&amp;nbsp; healthy relationship within yourself. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Thank you for visiting my blog http://www.counselingandemotions.com/  Visit my website to learn more about my counseling services http://www.veraakulov.com/&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8085691507900565650-5144973284154904380?l=www.counselingandemotions.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</description><link>http://www.counselingandemotions.com/2011/08/sometimes-reason-we-feel-badly-is.html</link><author>noreply@blogger.com (Vera Akulov, LMHC. Psychotherapist (425) 444-5902)</author><thr:total>0</thr:total></item><item><guid isPermaLink='false'>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8085691507900565650.post-100293408494019545</guid><pubDate>Wed, 13 Jul 2011 19:16:00 +0000</pubDate><atom:updated>2011-08-04T13:51:53.997-07:00</atom:updated><category domain='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#'>transitions</category><title>The middle place</title><description>That place in-between or a transitional place in our life can be a painful place but it also can be the most fruitful place in our life.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;A nicely written book by William Bridges explains what kind of a place this is &lt;br /&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.amazon.com/Transitions-Making-Changes-Revised-Anniversary/dp/073820904X/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&amp;amp;ie=UTF8&amp;amp;qid=1310584260&amp;amp;sr=1-2"&gt; &lt;/a&gt;  &lt;br /&gt;&lt;div class="data"&gt;&lt;div class="title"&gt;Transitions: Making Sense of Life's Changes,&amp;nbsp;&lt;span class="ptBrand"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;When we have to face a loss, illness, a divorce, a career change, a relocation we land in that place. On one hand we know staying in the same place is not good for us but on the other hand moving toward that thing that would make us happy is incredibly difficult and painful. It brings up all kinds of issues inside of us and we struggle in this place before we are ready to step forward.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Thank you for visiting my blog http://www.counselingandemotions.com/  Visit my website to learn more about my counseling services http://www.veraakulov.com/&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8085691507900565650-100293408494019545?l=www.counselingandemotions.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</description><link>http://www.counselingandemotions.com/2011/07/middle-place.html</link><author>noreply@blogger.com (Vera Akulov, LMHC. Psychotherapist (425) 444-5902)</author><thr:total>0</thr:total></item><item><guid isPermaLink='false'>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8085691507900565650.post-4822408872433742246</guid><pubDate>Wed, 15 Jun 2011 16:40:00 +0000</pubDate><atom:updated>2011-06-15T09:40:34.357-07:00</atom:updated><category domain='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#'>seminars</category><title>Free: Eating Disorder Forum June 21st</title><description>&lt;div style="text-align: left;"&gt;An Educational Forum On “Eating Disorders: Facts, Myths &amp;amp; The Road To Recovery” &lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="text-align: center;"&gt;Guest: Mehri Moore, MD&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="text-align: center;"&gt;Date: Tuesday, June 21, 2011, 7 PM - 9 PM&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="text-align: center;"&gt;Location:&lt;a href="http://evergreenhealthcare.org/"&gt; *Evergreen Hospital&lt;/a&gt;, Suite Tan 100,&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="text-align: center;"&gt;12303 NE 130th Lane, &lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="text-align: center;"&gt;Kirkland, WA 98034&lt;/div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;a href="http://redmondcity.blogspot.com/2011/06/mental-health-news-and-current-events.html?utm_source=feedburner&amp;amp;utm_medium=feed&amp;amp;utm_campaign=Feed%3A+blogspot%2FwdMq+%28Redmond+Neighborhood+Blog%29&amp;amp;utm_content=Google+Reader"&gt;Click here for more: Eating Disorder Forum June 21st&lt;/a&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8085691507900565650-4822408872433742246?l=www.counselingandemotions.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</description><link>http://www.counselingandemotions.com/2011/06/free-eating-disorder-forum-june-21st.html</link><author>noreply@blogger.com (Vera Akulov, LMHC. Psychotherapist (425) 444-5902)</author><thr:total>0</thr:total></item><item><guid isPermaLink='false'>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8085691507900565650.post-6746979910800502506</guid><pubDate>Sun, 01 May 2011 04:50:00 +0000</pubDate><atom:updated>2011-04-30T21:50:09.212-07:00</atom:updated><category domain='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#'>video</category><category domain='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#'>autism</category><title>Autism Awareness</title><description>&lt;div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"&gt;&lt;object width="320" height="266" class="BLOGGER-youtube-video" classid="clsid:D27CDB6E-AE6D-11cf-96B8-444553540000" codebase="http://download.macromedia.com/pub/shockwave/cabs/flash/swflash.cab#version=6,0,40,0" data-thumbnail-src="http://2.gvt0.com/vi/u02KZWMYxGY/0.jpg"&gt;&lt;param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/u02KZWMYxGY&amp;fs=1&amp;source=uds" /&gt;&lt;param name="bgcolor" value="#FFFFFF" /&gt;&lt;embed width="320" height="266" src="http://www.youtube.com/v/u02KZWMYxGY&amp;fs=1&amp;source=uds" type="application/x-shockwave-flash"&gt;&lt;/embed&gt;&lt;/object&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;strong&gt;Autism Now: Meet Nick, Robert MacNeil’s Grandson&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;br /&gt;About a PBS reporter’s 6 year old grandson diagnosed with autism, and  his family’s experiences. Includes a look at physical symptoms and how  they interact with behaviour, and a touching interview with his 10 year  old sister.&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8085691507900565650-6746979910800502506?l=www.counselingandemotions.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</description><link>http://www.counselingandemotions.com/2011/04/autism-awareness.html</link><author>noreply@blogger.com (Vera Akulov, LMHC. Psychotherapist (425) 444-5902)</author><thr:total>0</thr:total></item><item><guid isPermaLink='false'>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8085691507900565650.post-6021860863292154192</guid><pubDate>Fri, 15 Apr 2011 04:30:00 +0000</pubDate><atom:updated>2011-04-14T21:30:52.738-07:00</atom:updated><category domain='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#'>quote</category><title>Quote of the day</title><description>&lt;h6 class="uiStreamMessage" data-ft="{&amp;quot;type&amp;quot;:&amp;quot;msg&amp;quot;}"&gt;&lt;span class="messageBody"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/h6&gt;&lt;h6 class="uiStreamMessage" data-ft="{&amp;quot;type&amp;quot;:&amp;quot;msg&amp;quot;}"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: large;"&gt;&lt;span class="messageBody"&gt;"Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die." - Malachy McCourt&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/h6&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8085691507900565650-6021860863292154192?l=www.counselingandemotions.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</description><link>http://www.counselingandemotions.com/2011/04/quote-of-day.html</link><author>noreply@blogger.com (Vera Akulov, LMHC. Psychotherapist (425) 444-5902)</author><thr:total>0</thr:total></item><item><guid isPermaLink='false'>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8085691507900565650.post-3195600073652055736</guid><pubDate>Mon, 11 Apr 2011 17:57:00 +0000</pubDate><atom:updated>2011-04-11T10:58:03.038-07:00</atom:updated><category domain='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#'>anxiety</category><category domain='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#'>article</category><title>We are less anxious when we are thirsty a new study</title><description>Response to social anxiety better when our sodium levels are elevated and we are thirsty. The reason for this according the the article is that we have to search for water so we are less likely to be anxious.&amp;nbsp; Eric Krause, PhD from University of Cincinnati is quoted saying:&lt;br /&gt;&lt;blockquote&gt;"When you're thirsty, you have to overcome some amount of fear and  anxiety to approach a communal water source. And you want to facilitate  those interactions - that way everyone can get to the water source." &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Krause and his team dehydrated laboratory rats by giving them sodium  chloride, then exposed them to stress. Compared with a control group,  the rats that received the sodium chloride secreted fewer stress  hormones and also displayed a reduced cardiovascular response to stress.  &lt;/blockquote&gt;To read more follow this link:&amp;nbsp; &lt;a href="http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/221485.php"&gt;http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/221485.php&lt;/a&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8085691507900565650-3195600073652055736?l=www.counselingandemotions.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</description><link>http://www.counselingandemotions.com/2011/04/we-are-less-anxious-when-we-are-thirsty.html</link><author>noreply@blogger.com (Vera Akulov, LMHC. Psychotherapist (425) 444-5902)</author><thr:total>0</thr:total></item><item><guid isPermaLink='false'>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8085691507900565650.post-8946423086870962895</guid><pubDate>Mon, 04 Apr 2011 06:03:00 +0000</pubDate><atom:updated>2011-04-03T23:09:24.611-07:00</atom:updated><category domain='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#'>quote</category><category domain='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#'>victims of abuse</category><title>Getting stuck in a vicious cycle</title><description>This an excellent excerpt from a book &lt;b&gt;"PEACE from Broken Pieces. How to get through what you're going though" by Iyanla vanzant&lt;/b&gt; -- what it must be like to gets stuck in a vicious cycle of an abusive relationship, what its like to loose oneself and become possessed by a need to be loved,&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;blockquote&gt;"...your desire to know love will have a powerful impact on your life.&amp;nbsp; It will dredge up everything that is unloving within you and around you. The more I loved him, the more unlovable I felt.&amp;nbsp; The more unlovable I felt, the uglier I believed I was. The uglier I believed i was, the more unworthy I thought I was in my own mind. The more unworthy I thought I was, the harder I held on to what I thought I did not deserve.&amp;nbsp; It was painful; loving him and believing I didn't deserve to be loved. Back then, pain was my drug of choice.&amp;nbsp; It was a vicious cycle that had very little to do with him.&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp; A friend said it was almost like I was possessed. And I was. I was possessed by him that I forgot, on many occasions, to possess myself; to honor me and love me. I was possessed enough to stay with him, knowing, as I did, that there were pieces of me that were badly broken or missing altogether." (Page 14)&lt;/blockquote&gt;Another great quote from page 10 in Iyanla Vanzant book&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;blockquote&gt;"When you have no positive pictures and, are unable to access the feelings those pictures would evoke, you have a tendency to make up what you want the pictures to be. More often than not, the pictures you create are not fully developed, causing you to live your life in the blur of false images."&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8085691507900565650-8946423086870962895?l=www.counselingandemotions.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</description><link>http://www.counselingandemotions.com/2011/04/more-i-loved-him-more-unlovable-i-felt.html</link><author>noreply@blogger.com (Vera Akulov, LMHC. Psychotherapist (425) 444-5902)</author><thr:total>0</thr:total></item><item><guid isPermaLink='false'>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8085691507900565650.post-8221841722169458937</guid><pubDate>Tue, 29 Mar 2011 02:20:00 +0000</pubDate><atom:updated>2011-04-03T23:15:20.378-07:00</atom:updated><category domain='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#'>quote</category><category domain='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#'>attitude</category><title>Quote by a Psychoanalyst that survived Nazi Concentration Camp</title><description>&lt;blockquote&gt;Everything can be taken from a man or a woman but one thing: the last of human freedoms is to choose one's attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way. --Viktor Frankl&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;br /&gt;The writings of Viktor Frankl are classics in the therapy community, I highly recommend reading them.&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8085691507900565650-8221841722169458937?l=www.counselingandemotions.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</description><link>http://www.counselingandemotions.com/2011/03/quote-by-psychoanalyst-that-survived.html</link><author>noreply@blogger.com (Vera Akulov, LMHC. Psychotherapist (425) 444-5902)</author><thr:total>0</thr:total></item><item><guid isPermaLink='false'>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8085691507900565650.post-8091957163418572573</guid><pubDate>Wed, 23 Mar 2011 06:51:00 +0000</pubDate><atom:updated>2011-03-23T13:44:03.937-07:00</atom:updated><title>Free parenting workshop in Renton</title><description>&lt;a href="http://www.inittogether.org/index.php/saturday-workshops"&gt;http://www.inittogether.org&lt;/a&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8085691507900565650-8091957163418572573?l=www.counselingandemotions.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</description><link>http://www.counselingandemotions.com/2011/03/free-parenting-workshop-in-renton.html</link><author>noreply@blogger.com (Vera Akulov, LMHC. Psychotherapist (425) 444-5902)</author><thr:total>0</thr:total></item><item><guid isPermaLink='false'>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8085691507900565650.post-8849736132498760147</guid><pubDate>Wed, 23 Mar 2011 06:04:00 +0000</pubDate><atom:updated>2011-03-22T23:08:31.370-07:00</atom:updated><category domain='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#'>recomendation</category><title>A recent recommendation</title><description>Recently I received a wonderful recommendation on LinkedIn from my work at Fairfax Psychiatric Hospital. I was stunned and very grateful! &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;div class="reference"&gt;&lt;blockquote&gt;“I worked with Vera at Fairfax hospital.  I was  able to interact with her almost daily in her role as therapist and  admissions triage coordinator.  Vera is a exemplary clinician.  Her  ability to assess and triage difficult patients, formulate a clinical  profile, and present those patients to the medical director and the  hospital was highly valued.  We could all count on Vera to accurately  assess need and clearly articulate issues.  Vera possesses advanced  clinical insight and is able to communicate in a clear and concise  manner.  She was always upbeat and positive. Vera could put the most  challenging patients at ease and make them feel welcomed and cared for.   Our medical director continually praised Vera for her accuracy and  speed in admitting highly acute clients,  keeping him informed of  critical clinical data.  It was a pleasure working with Vera as her  positive attitude, sense of humor, personality, and calm affect infected  all around her.  I would highly recommend Vera to any organization that  desires a dedicated professional with a fantastic attitude and a work  ethic that is rarely seen in today’s workplace.  &lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Dan Munsey Director of Nursing Dorothea Dix Psychiatric Center”                     &lt;span class="date"&gt;March 11, 2011&lt;/span&gt;&lt;abbr title="Dan is your connection"&gt;&lt;/abbr&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;i&gt;Director of Clinical Services/Director of Nursing, Fairfax Hospital&lt;/i&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;div class="distance deg_1"&gt;managed Vera indirectly at Fairfax Hospital&amp;nbsp;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="distance deg_1"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Thank you for visiting my blog &lt;a href="http://www.counselingandemotions.com/%20%20"&gt;http://www.counselingandemotions.com/  &lt;/a&gt;Visit my website to learn more about my counseling services &lt;a href="http://www.veraakulov.com/"&gt;http://www.veraakulov.com/&lt;/a&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8085691507900565650-8849736132498760147?l=www.counselingandemotions.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</description><link>http://www.counselingandemotions.com/2011/03/recent-recommendation.html</link><author>noreply@blogger.com (Vera Akulov, LMHC. Psychotherapist (425) 444-5902)</author><thr:total>0</thr:total></item><item><guid isPermaLink='false'>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8085691507900565650.post-8372713796885581003</guid><pubDate>Wed, 23 Mar 2011 05:51:00 +0000</pubDate><atom:updated>2011-03-22T22:51:38.012-07:00</atom:updated><category domain='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#'>quote</category><category domain='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#'>self-awareness</category><title>A quote by my favorite author</title><description>"Self-awareness is a supreme gift, a treasure as precious as life. This is what makes us human. But it comes with a costly price: the wound of mortality. Our existence is forever shadowed by the knowledge that we will grow, blossom, and inevitably, diminish and die." (Irvine D. Yalom "Staring at the Sun: Overcoming the Terror of Death" 2008)&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8085691507900565650-8372713796885581003?l=www.counselingandemotions.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</description><link>http://www.counselingandemotions.com/2011/03/quote-by-my-favorite-author.html</link><author>noreply@blogger.com (Vera Akulov, LMHC. Psychotherapist (425) 444-5902)</author><thr:total>0</thr:total></item><item><guid isPermaLink='false'>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8085691507900565650.post-5986198032415737340</guid><pubDate>Mon, 21 Mar 2011 23:57:00 +0000</pubDate><atom:updated>2011-03-21T17:01:59.437-07:00</atom:updated><category domain='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#'>poem</category><title>Poem by Portia Nelson (1920 - 2001)</title><description>&lt;div style="text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;strong&gt;There Is a Hole in My Sidewalk&lt;br /&gt;Autobiography in Five Short Chapters&lt;/strong&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;em&gt;By Portia Nelson&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="text-align: center;"&gt;Chapter One&lt;br /&gt;I walk down the street.&lt;br /&gt;There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.&lt;br /&gt;I fall in.&lt;br /&gt;I am lost…I am helpless.&lt;br /&gt;It isn’t my fault.&lt;br /&gt;It takes forever to find a way out.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="text-align: center;"&gt;Chapter Two&lt;br /&gt;I walk down the street.&lt;br /&gt;There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.&lt;br /&gt;I pretend that I don’t see it.&lt;br /&gt;I fall in again.&lt;br /&gt;I can’t believe I am in this same place.&lt;br /&gt;But, it isn’t my fault.&lt;br /&gt;It still takes a long time to get out.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="text-align: center;"&gt;Chapter Three&lt;br /&gt;I walk down the same street.&lt;br /&gt;There is a deep whole in the sidewalk.&lt;br /&gt;I see it is there.&lt;br /&gt;I still fall in…it’s a habit…but,&lt;br /&gt;My eyes are open&lt;br /&gt;I know where I am&lt;br /&gt;It is my fault.&lt;br /&gt;I get out immediately,&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="text-align: center;"&gt;Chapter Four&lt;br /&gt;I walk down the same street.&lt;br /&gt;There is a deep hole in the sidewalk.&lt;br /&gt;I walk around it.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="text-align: center;"&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div style="text-align: center;"&gt;Chapter Five&lt;br /&gt;I walk down another street.&lt;/div&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8085691507900565650-5986198032415737340?l=www.counselingandemotions.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</description><link>http://www.counselingandemotions.com/2011/03/great-poem-autobiography-in-five.html</link><author>noreply@blogger.com (Vera Akulov, LMHC. Psychotherapist (425) 444-5902)</author><thr:total>0</thr:total></item><item><guid isPermaLink='false'>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8085691507900565650.post-3656368580820198970</guid><pubDate>Tue, 15 Mar 2011 00:32:00 +0000</pubDate><atom:updated>2011-03-14T17:35:17.669-07:00</atom:updated><category domain='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#'>quote</category><title>Quote you hang on your wall</title><description>&lt;span style="font-size: large;"&gt;"We turn to God for help when our foundations are shaking only to learn it is God who is shaking them."&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;another one&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: large;"&gt;"Nothing changes until we do." &lt;/span&gt;- &lt;span style="font-size: xx-small;"&gt;Stanny B. (2004). &lt;i&gt;Secrets of Six-Figured Women: Surprising Strategies to Up Your Earnings and Change Your Life." &lt;/i&gt;Harper: New York.&lt;/span&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8085691507900565650-3656368580820198970?l=www.counselingandemotions.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</description><link>http://www.counselingandemotions.com/2011/03/quote.html</link><author>noreply@blogger.com (Vera Akulov, LMHC. Psychotherapist (425) 444-5902)</author><thr:total>0</thr:total></item><item><guid isPermaLink='false'>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8085691507900565650.post-4963826680230235435</guid><pubDate>Thu, 10 Mar 2011 06:39:00 +0000</pubDate><atom:updated>2011-03-09T22:39:18.626-08:00</atom:updated><category domain='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#'>community classess</category><title>Self Improvement Classess</title><description>Are you facing a difficult time but cannot afford traditional therapy?&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Here are several inexpensive options around Eastside and Renton area to look into for self-improvement, enrichment, and support classes.&amp;nbsp; I'm a strong believer in the importance of making our emotional health a priority especially during difficult time.&amp;nbsp; These places offer some great alternatives at a low cost: &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;North Campus at Bellevue Community college has some great career, self-improvement, conflict resolution, weigh loss classes anyone can take visit &lt;a href="http://www.gotobcc.com/"&gt;www.gotobcc.com&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Evergreen Medical Center also offers great community classes from childbirth to stress management to weight loss to bereavement support at &lt;a href="https://weblink.healthlines.org/web3/clSc.do"&gt;https://weblink.healthlines.org/web3/clSc.do&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Another place to look for inexpensive community classes&amp;nbsp; is Valley Medical Center &lt;a href="http://www.valleymed.org/Health_Info/support-group-patient-ed.htm%20%20"&gt;http://www.valleymed.org/Health_Info/support-group-patient-ed.htm&amp;nbsp; &lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Thank you for visiting my blog &lt;a href="http://www.counselingandemotions.com/"&gt;http://www.counselingandemotions.com/&lt;/a&gt;  Visit my website to learn more about my counseling services &lt;a href="http://www.veraakulov.com/"&gt;http://www.veraakulov.com/&lt;/a&gt;&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8085691507900565650-4963826680230235435?l=www.counselingandemotions.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</description><link>http://www.counselingandemotions.com/2011/03/self-improvement-classess.html</link><author>noreply@blogger.com (Vera Akulov, LMHC. Psychotherapist (425) 444-5902)</author><thr:total>0</thr:total></item><item><guid isPermaLink='false'>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8085691507900565650.post-5565081321602150699</guid><pubDate>Sun, 06 Mar 2011 05:17:00 +0000</pubDate><atom:updated>2011-03-05T21:18:30.571-08:00</atom:updated><category domain='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#'>depression</category><category domain='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#'>article</category><title>"A sad person who says that the world looks dull and gray and that flowers no longer smell so sweet may not just be speaking figuratively. Two recent studies from Germany provide evidence that sensory perception is diminished in depressed individuals."</title><description>Interesting article examines the effects of depression on persons senses...&amp;nbsp; &lt;a href="http://discovermagazine.com/2010/dec/01-how-depression-dulls-the-world-literally%20"&gt;http://discovermagazine.com/2010/dec/01-how-depression-dulls-the-world-literally &lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;h2&gt;How Depression Dulls the World—Literally             &lt;/h2&gt;&lt;div class="articleDescription"&gt;The condition seems to affect  how our senses work, and researchers may one day use this to make an  objective diagnosis of depression. &lt;/div&gt;&lt;span class="author"&gt;by Eliza Strickland&lt;/span&gt;                          &lt;br /&gt;&lt;div class="date"&gt;From the &lt;a href="http://discovermagazine.com/2010/dec"&gt;December 2010 issue&lt;/a&gt;; published online February 11, 2011             &lt;/div&gt;&lt;br /&gt;A sad person who says that the world looks dull and gray and that  flowers no longer smell so sweet may not just be speaking figuratively.  Two recent studies from Germany provide evidence that sensory perception  is diminished in depressed individuals.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;To determine if depression has an effect on vision, neuropsychiatrist &lt;a class="external-link" href="http://www.uniklinik-freiburg.de/psych/live/personen/vanElst/vanElst-en.html?raw=true&amp;amp;layout=weiss&amp;amp;szsrc="&gt;Ludger Tebartz van Elst&lt;/a&gt;  of the University of Freiburg hooked up depressed patients and control  subjects to a pattern electroretinograph, a device that measures  electrical signals in the retina. When viewing black-and-white  checkerboard images, &lt;a class="external-link" href="http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/sites/entrez/20359698?dopt=Abstract&amp;amp;holding=f1000%2Cf1000m"&gt;people with depression showed markedly reduced electrical responses&lt;/a&gt;.&lt;br /&gt;&amp;nbsp; &lt;br /&gt;The effect may originate in the retina’s amacrine cells, which feed  sensory input to the neurons in the eye. Amacrine cells rely on the  neurotransmitter dopamine to function, and mood disorders have been  linked to dopamine dysfunctions in the brain. Tebartz van Elst believes  the visual response test could serve as an objective measure for  establishing a diagnosis of depression: “The patients don’t have to say  anything at all—they just keep their eyes open,” he says.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Separately, otorhinolaryngologist &lt;a class="external-link" href="http://www.tu-dresden.de/medkhno/hummel.htm"&gt;Thomas Hummel&lt;/a&gt;  of the University of Dresden Medical School explored odor perception in  depressed patients. Compared with control subjects, he found, &lt;a class="external-link" href="http://www.sciencedirect.com/science?_ob=ArticleURL&amp;amp;_udi=B6T0F-502V720-1&amp;amp;_user=10&amp;amp;_coverDate=08%2F11%2F2010&amp;amp;_rdoc=1&amp;amp;_fmt=high&amp;amp;_orig=search&amp;amp;_origin=search&amp;amp;_sort=d&amp;amp;_docanchor=&amp;amp;view=c&amp;amp;_acct=C000050221&amp;amp;_version=1&amp;amp;_urlVersion=0&amp;amp;_userid=10&amp;amp;md5=880ba90ddc689e693940f7bec600004d&amp;amp;searchtype=a"&gt;people suffering from depression were less able to detect weak smells&lt;/a&gt;;  MRI scans revealed that they had smaller olfactory bulbs, the brain  structures involved in odor perception. Both Hummel and Tebartz van Elst  next plan to investigate whether the successful treatment of depression  restores the richness of the senses.&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Thank you for visiting my blog http://www.counselingandemotions.com/  Visit my website to learn more about my counseling services http://www.veraakulov.com/&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8085691507900565650-5565081321602150699?l=www.counselingandemotions.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</description><link>http://www.counselingandemotions.com/2011/03/sad-person-who-says-that-world-looks.html</link><author>noreply@blogger.com (Vera Akulov, LMHC. Psychotherapist (425) 444-5902)</author><thr:total>0</thr:total></item><item><guid isPermaLink='false'>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8085691507900565650.post-1257368401866086261</guid><pubDate>Sun, 06 Mar 2011 05:01:00 +0000</pubDate><atom:updated>2011-03-05T21:01:31.483-08:00</atom:updated><category domain='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#'>attachment</category><category domain='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#'>article</category><title>Early attachment may predict couples' recovery after fights</title><description>Interesting finding about attachment. Most intriguing conclusion "This means that if your caregiver is better at regulating your negative emotions as an infant, you tend to do a better job of regulating your own negative emotions in the moments following a conflict as an adult."&lt;h1 id="post-23721"&gt;&lt;a href="http://psychcentral.com/news/2011/02/21/early-attachment-may-predict-couples-recovery-after-fights/23721.html" rel="bookmark" title="Permanent Link: Early Attachment May Predict Couples’ Recovery After Fights"&gt;Early Attachment May Predict Couples’ Recovery After Fights&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/h1&gt;&lt;div id="top_review"&gt;  &lt;span class="author"&gt;By   &lt;span class="authorb"&gt;Rick Nauert PhD&lt;/span&gt;    &lt;em&gt;Senior News Editor&lt;/em&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;span class="reviewer"&gt; Reviewed by John M. Grohol, Psy.D.  on February 21, 2011   &lt;/span&gt; &lt;/div&gt;&lt;img alt="Early Attachment May Predict Couples Recovery After Fights " height="300" id="newsimg" src="http://g.psychcentral.com/news/u/2011/01/couple-fighting-2.jpg" title="couple fighting 2" width="199" /&gt;Emerging  research suggests couples’ abilities to bounce back from conflict may  depend on what both partners were like as infants.&lt;br /&gt;The study, published in the journal &lt;em&gt;Psychological Science&lt;/em&gt;, is an outgrowth of studies on how couples fight.&lt;br /&gt;Researchers at the University of Minnesota have been following a  cohort of people since before they were born, in the mid-1970s. When the  subjects were about 20 years old, they visited the lab with their  romantic partners for testing.&lt;br /&gt;This included a conflict discussion, when they were asked to talk  about an issue they disagreed on, followed by a “cool-down” period, when  the couples spent a few minutes talking about something they saw eye to  eye about.&lt;br /&gt;Although the cool-down period was included just to make sure the  researchers weren’t sending the couples away angry, Jessica E.  Salvatore, a Ph.D. student at the University of Minnesota, noticed some  interesting things about the couples’ communication styles during this  recovery time.&lt;br /&gt;“As part of another project where we looked at how couples fight, I  would often catch a few minutes of this cool-down period,” she said.  Salvatore noticed that some couples had intense conflicts, but made a  perfectly clean transition to chatting about something they agreed on.  In other couples, one or both partners seemed “stuck” on the conflict  discussion and couldn’t move on.&lt;br /&gt;Salvatore and her co-researchers embarked on a closer look at what  happens after a conflict supposedly ends. By looking back at  observations of the participants and their caregivers from the 1970s,  when they were between 12 and 18 months old, the researchers discovered a  link between the couples’ conflict recovery behaviors and the quality  of their attachment relationship with their caregivers.&lt;br /&gt;People who were more securely attached to their caregivers as infants  were better at recovering from conflict 20 years later. This means that  if your caregiver is better at regulating your negative emotions as an  infant, you tend to do a better job of regulating your own negative  emotions in the moments following a conflict as an adult.&lt;br /&gt;The researchers also found that there is hope for people who were insecurely attached as infants.&lt;br /&gt;“We found that people who were insecurely attached as infants but  whose adult romantic partners recover well from conflict are likely to  stay together,” remarked Salvatore.&lt;br /&gt;“If one person can lead this process of recovering from conflict, it may buffer the other person and the relationship.”&lt;br /&gt;The health of a relationship can be salvaged if one person can  quickly disengage from conflict and avoid dwelling on negative thoughts  and emotions.&lt;br /&gt;This is some of the first evidence that romantic partners play an  important role in buffering the potential harmful effects from poor  experiences earlier in life.&lt;br /&gt;“That, to us, was the most exciting finding,” Salvatore said.  “There’s something about the important people later in our lives that  changes the consequences of what happened earlier.”&lt;br /&gt;Source: &lt;a href="http://www.psychologicalscience.org/index.php/news/releases/how-couples-recover-after-an-argument-stems-from-their-infant-relationships.html"&gt;American Psychological Association&amp;nbsp;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;http://psychcentral.com/news/2011/02/21/early-attachment-may-predict-couples-recovery-after-fights/23721.html &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Thank you for visiting my blog http://www.counselingandemotions.com/  Visit my website to learn more about my counseling services http://www.veraakulov.com/&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8085691507900565650-1257368401866086261?l=www.counselingandemotions.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</description><link>http://www.counselingandemotions.com/2011/03/early-attachment-may-predict-couples.html</link><author>noreply@blogger.com (Vera Akulov, LMHC. Psychotherapist (425) 444-5902)</author><thr:total>0</thr:total></item><item><guid isPermaLink='false'>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8085691507900565650.post-1991964064703993997</guid><pubDate>Sat, 05 Mar 2011 05:04:00 +0000</pubDate><atom:updated>2011-03-04T21:04:21.407-08:00</atom:updated><category domain='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#'>lifestyle changes</category><category domain='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#'>article</category><title></title><description>Interesting article how lifestyle changes can also effect mental health issues such as depression and anxiety. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/216903.php"&gt;http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/216903.php&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;h3&gt;Therapeutic Lifestyle Changes Offer Many Mental Health Benefits&lt;/h3&gt;21 Feb 2011&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Lifestyle changes - such as getting more exercise, time in nature,  or helping others - can be as effective as drugs or counseling to treat  an array of mental illnesses, according to a new paper published by the  American Psychological Association. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Multiple mental health conditions, including depression and anxiety, can  be treated with certain lifestyle changes as successfully as diseases  such as diabetes and obesity, according to Roger Walsh, M.D., PhD. of  the University of California, Irvine's College of Medicine. Walsh  reviewed research on the effects of what he calls "therapeutic lifestyle  changes," or TLCs, including exercise, nutrition and diet,  relationships, recreation, relaxation and stress management, religious  or spiritual involvement, spending time in nature, and service to  others. His paper was published in &lt;i&gt;American Psychologist, &lt;/i&gt;APA's flagship journal. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Walsh reviewed research on TLCs' effectiveness and advantages, as well  as the psychological costs of spending too much time in front of the TV  or computer screen, not getting outdoors enough, and becoming socially  isolated. He concludes that "Lifestyle changes can offer significant  therapeutic advantages for patients, therapists, and societies, yet are  insufficiently appreciated, taught or utilized," The paper describes  TLCs as effective, inexpensive and often enjoyable, with fewer side  effects and complications than medications. "In the 21st century,  therapeutic lifestyles may need to be a central focus of mental, medical  and public health," Walsh said. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;According to research reviewed in the paper, the many often unrecognized TLC benefits include: &lt;br /&gt;&lt;ul&gt;&lt;li&gt;  Exercise not only helps people feel better by reducing anxiety  and depression. It can help children do better in school, improve  cognitive performance in adults, reduce age-related memory loss in the  elderly, and increase new neuron formation in the brain. &lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt; Diets rich in vegetables, fruits and fish may help school  performance in children, maintain cognitive functions in adults, as well  as reduce symptoms in affective and schizophrenic disorders. &lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;  Spending time in nature can promote cognitive functions and overall well-being. &lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;  Good relationships can reduce health risks ranging from the  common cold to strokes as well as multiple mental illnesses, and can  enhance psychological well-being dramatically. &lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt; Recreation and fun can reduce defensiveness and foster social skills. &lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt; Relaxation and stress management can treat a variety of anxiety, insomnia, and panic disorders. &lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt;  Meditation has many benefits. It can improve empathy,  sensitivity and emotional stability, reduce stress and burnout, and  enhance cognitive function and even brain size. &lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt; Religious and spiritual involvement that focuses on love and  forgiveness can reduce anxiety, depression and substance abuse, and  foster well-being. &lt;/li&gt;&lt;li&gt; Contribution and service, or altruism, can enhance joy and  generosity by producing a "helper's high." Altruism also benefits both  physical and mental health, and perhaps even extends lifespan. A major  exception the paper notes is "caretaker burnout experienced by  overwhelmed family members caring for a demented spouse or parent." &lt;/li&gt;&lt;/ul&gt;Difficulties associated with using TLCs are the sustained effort they  require, and "a passive expectation that healing comes from an outside  authority or a pill," according to Walsh. He also noted that people  today must contend with a daily barrage of psychologically sophisticated  advertisements promoting unhealthy lifestyle behaviors such as smoking,  drinking alcohol, and eating fast food. "You can never get enough of  what you don't really want, but you can certainly ruin your life and  health trying" lamented Walsh. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;For therapists, the study recommends learning more about the benefits of TLCs, and devoting more time to foster patients' TLCs. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;The paper recognizes that encouraging widespread adoption of therapeutic  lifestyles by the public is likely to require wide-scale measures  encompassing educational, mental, and public health systems, as well as  political leadership. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Article: "Lifestyle and Mental Health," Roger Walsh, PhD, M.D., University of California College of Medicine, Irvine; &lt;i&gt;American Psychologist&lt;/i&gt;, Online First Publication, January 17, 2011. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Source: &lt;br /&gt;Lisa Bowen&lt;br /&gt;American Psychological Association  &lt;hr size="1" /&gt;  Article URL: http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/216903.php&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Thank you for visiting my blog http://www.counselingandemotions.com/  Visit my website to learn more about my counseling services http://www.veraakulov.com/&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8085691507900565650-1991964064703993997?l=www.counselingandemotions.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</description><link>http://www.counselingandemotions.com/2011/03/interesting-article-how-lifestyle.html</link><author>noreply@blogger.com (Vera Akulov, LMHC. Psychotherapist (425) 444-5902)</author><thr:total>0</thr:total></item><item><guid isPermaLink='false'>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8085691507900565650.post-6487777422276334392</guid><pubDate>Mon, 28 Feb 2011 19:59:00 +0000</pubDate><atom:updated>2011-02-28T11:59:53.923-08:00</atom:updated><category domain='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#'>vulnerability</category><category domain='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#'>shame</category><category domain='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#'>vidoe</category><title></title><description>Excerpt from http://www.brenebrown.com/welcome&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;blockquote&gt;Brené Brown, Ph.D., LMSW is a research professor at the University of Houston &lt;a href="http://www.sw.uh.edu/main/home.php" target="_blank"&gt;Graduate College of Social Work&lt;/a&gt;.  She has spent the past ten years studying vulnerability, courage,  authenticity, and shame. Brené spent the first five years of her  decade-long study focusing on shame and empathy, and is now using that  work to explore a concept that she calls Wholeheartedness. She poses the  questions:&lt;br /&gt;How do we learn to embrace our vulnerabilities and imperfections so  that we can engage in our lives from a place of authenticity and  worthiness? How do we cultivate the courage, compassion, and connection  that we need to recognize that we are enough – that we are worthy of  love, belonging, and joy?&lt;/blockquote&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="390" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/iCvmsMzlF7o" title="YouTube video player" width="640"&gt;&lt;/iframe&gt; &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Thank you for visiting my blog http://www.counselingandemotions.com/  Visit my website to learn more about my counseling services http://www.veraakulov.com/&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8085691507900565650-6487777422276334392?l=www.counselingandemotions.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</description><link>http://www.counselingandemotions.com/2011/02/excerpt-from-httpwww.html</link><author>noreply@blogger.com (Vera Akulov, LMHC. Psychotherapist (425) 444-5902)</author><media:thumbnail xmlns:media='http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/' url='http://img.youtube.com/vi/iCvmsMzlF7o/default.jpg' height='72' width='72'/><thr:total>0</thr:total></item><item><guid isPermaLink='false'>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8085691507900565650.post-6672664403281956596</guid><pubDate>Mon, 28 Feb 2011 18:01:00 +0000</pubDate><atom:updated>2011-02-28T10:02:39.471-08:00</atom:updated><title>BPD Expert Dr. Marsha Linehan at the National Institute of Mental Health</title><description>&lt;h1 id="watch-headline-title" style="font-weight: normal;"&gt;&lt;span style="font-size: small;"&gt;&lt;span class="long-title" dir="ltr" id="eow-title" title="BPD Expert Dr. Marsha Linehan at the National Institute of Mental Health"&gt;&amp;nbsp;&lt;/span&gt;Dr. Marsha Linehan from University of Washington, the pioneer of Dialectic Behavioural Therapy, designed for suicidal people with Borderline Personality Disorder, talks about her research  and challenges with treating Borderline Personality Disorder. &lt;/span&gt;&lt;/h1&gt;&lt;h1 id="watch-headline-title"&gt;&lt;span class="long-title" dir="ltr" id="eow-title" title="BPD Expert Dr. Marsha Linehan at the National Institute of Mental Health"&gt;&lt;/span&gt;&lt;/h1&gt;&lt;iframe allowfullscreen="" frameborder="0" height="390" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/7KiihIE0d0c" title="YouTube video player" width="640"&gt;&lt;/iframe&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Thank you for visiting my blog http://www.counselingandemotions.com/  Visit my website to learn more about my counseling services http://www.veraakulov.com/&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8085691507900565650-6672664403281956596?l=www.counselingandemotions.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</description><link>http://www.counselingandemotions.com/2011/02/bpd-expert-dr-marsha-linehan-at.html</link><author>noreply@blogger.com (Vera Akulov, LMHC. Psychotherapist (425) 444-5902)</author><media:thumbnail xmlns:media='http://search.yahoo.com/mrss/' url='http://img.youtube.com/vi/7KiihIE0d0c/default.jpg' height='72' width='72'/><thr:total>0</thr:total></item><item><guid isPermaLink='false'>tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8085691507900565650.post-135662582371514207</guid><pubDate>Fri, 25 Feb 2011 00:10:00 +0000</pubDate><atom:updated>2011-02-24T16:11:27.945-08:00</atom:updated><category domain='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#'>yoga</category><category domain='http://www.blogger.com/atom/ns#'>article</category><title></title><description>A great article about effectiveness of Yoga Practice on our mood.&amp;nbsp; The interesting chemical changes practice of yoga stimulates our brain to handle anxiety and stress better. Is is linked to have the same chemical effects as antidepressants. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;h3&gt;&lt;a href="http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/207739.php"&gt;Yoga's Ability To Improve Mood And Lessen Anxiety Is Linked To Increased Levels Of A Critical Brain Chemical&lt;/a&gt;&lt;/h3&gt;&amp;lt;         &lt;script src="http://platform.twitter.com/widgets.js" type="text/javascript"&gt;&lt;/script&gt;Main Category: &lt;a href="http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/sections/complementary_medicine/"&gt;Complementary Medicine / Alternative Medicine&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Also Included In: &lt;a href="http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/sections/psychology-psychiatry/"&gt;Psychology / Psychiatry&lt;/a&gt;;&amp;nbsp;&amp;nbsp;&lt;a href="http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/sections/anxiety/"&gt;Anxiety / Stress&lt;/a&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Article Date: 15 Nov 2010 - 0:00 PST&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Yoga has a greater positive effect on a person's mood and &lt;a href="http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/info/anxiety/" title="What is Anxiety?"&gt;anxiety&lt;/a&gt; level than walking and other forms of exercise, which may be due to higher levels of the brain chemical GABA according to an article in The &lt;i&gt;Journal of Alternative and Complementary Medicine&lt;/i&gt;, a peer-reviewed journal published by Mary Ann Liebert, Inc. The article is available free online. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Yoga has been shown to increase the level of gamma-aminobutyric acid, or GABA, a chemical in the brain that helps to regulate nerve activity. GABA activity is reduced in people with mood and anxiety disorders, and drugs that increase GABA activity are commonly prescribed to improve mood and decrease anxiety. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Tying all of these observations together, the study by Chris Streeter, MD, from Boston University School of Medicine (Massachusetts) and colleagues demonstrates that increased GABA levels measured after a session of yoga postures are associated with improved mood and decreased anxiety. Their findings establish a new link between yoga, higher levels of GABA in the thalamus, and improvements in mood and anxiety based on psychological assessments. The authors suggest that the practice of yoga stimulates specific brain areas, thereby giving rise to changes in endogenous antidepressant neurotransmitters such as GABA. &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;"This is important work that establishes some objective bases for the effects that highly trained practitioners of yoga therapy throughout the world see on a daily basis. What is important now is that these findings are further investigated in long-term studies to establish just how sustainable such changes can be in the search for safe non-drug treatments for &lt;a href="http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/8933.php" title="What is Depression? What Causes Depression?"&gt;depression&lt;/a&gt;," says Kim A. Jobst, MA, DM, MRCP, MFHom, DipAc, Editor-in-Chief of &lt;i&gt;The Journal of Alternative and Complementary Medicine.&lt;/i&gt; &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Source: &lt;br /&gt;Vicki Cohn&lt;br /&gt;Mary Ann Liebert, Inc./Genetic Engineering News  &lt;a href="http://www.blogger.com/post-create.g?blogID=8085691507900565650" name="ratethis"&gt;&lt;/a&gt; &lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;&lt;br /&gt;Thank you for visiting my blog http://www.counselingandemotions.com/  Visit my website to learn more about my counseling services http://www.veraakulov.com/&lt;div class="blogger-post-footer"&gt;&lt;img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/8085691507900565650-135662582371514207?l=www.counselingandemotions.com' alt='' /&gt;&lt;/div&gt;</description><link>http://www.counselingandemotions.com/2011/02/great-article-about-effectiveness-of.html</link><author>noreply@blogger.com (Vera Akulov, LMHC. 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